Being in a relationship and having a romantic connection with another person can be an amazing and wonderful experience. You always know that someone has your back, you always have someone to call when you are having a bad day, you always have someone you can spoil and spend time with, someone to love and someone to call your own.

But what if the relationship that you are in, or have previously been in, does not fulfill all of the needs that you do have? Or what if that relationship falls apart unexpectedly? How do you go on and find happiness without that person that you put countless time and effort into? You might even know in your heart that the two of you are still meant to be together, but need to go through a journey on your own for the time being.

The period of time that a woman goes through after a breakup can be filled with countless scary emotions, doubts, and fears. At times, it can almost feel like you are morning the death of a loved one. But what happens once all of the tears are dried up? What happens when you have watched every man-hating Lifetime Movie that your brain can handle?

You get up, and you move on. This is the time when you will begin an amazing new journey with yourself. Instead of seeing your new found-independence as something to be afraid of, look at it as something that means you get a new start. You get to go back to the beginning and completely reinvent yourself if you want to. You get to build a relationship with the most important person in your life: YOU!

So how do you build a relationship with yourself? One of the first steps is to take care of you. Start eating healthier foods and going to the gym more. Don’t skip that yoga class that you always make excuses to get out of. This is your body, your health, and your life. Treat your body with as much love and care as you would treat the partner that you loved so much. This can be challenging for women to accept at times.

Naturally, women are givers. Doing things for yourself can feel unnatural at first, but it is the only way that you can learn to love you. Find hobbies that excite and inspire you. They can be creative activities, such as writing, sewing, playing an instrument or even athletic games. The idea is to get yourself in love with an activity that transforms your body and mind to a healthier place. Rediscover your faith if you have previously let it slip away from you. Sometimes a little bit of faith and spirituality can really help a person to build up courage, patience, and love.

Chances are that after a breakup, your self-confidence has gone down a considerable amount. If it has, building that back up should become your first priority. Do everything and anything that you can to make yourself feel amazing. Go to the mall and buy some new clothes that you never would have worn before. Try out a new hairstyle. Buy a new shade of lip color. These subtle changes can really make a large impact on your confidence development.

The most important thing that you can do for yourself is a simple activity you can practice everyday. Before you get in the shower, or when you are getting dressed in the morning, look in the mirror. Really look at yourself. Point out everything on yourself that is beautiful, because there is so much about you that is unique and amazing. Really admire yourself. There is only one you in this world. You are special for so many wonderful reasons, and you matter to so many people. You have family and friends who love you, now is the time to love yourself the way that they love you.

You should also take this time to reflect on the past a little bit, but never let it take over you. The past should stay in the past, but you must also think about what went wrong in your past relationships. If there is something that you did wrong, think about ways that you can improve yourself for the future. If there were things that hurt or upset you, figure out why and how you will avoid ever falling into those situations again. This will help you to figure out what you want from a potential partner and what you do not want or need in your life.

This is about you. You need to understand how you do not deserve to be treated in order to discover all that you do deserve.

Other ways to build up confidence are getting out of the house, meeting new people, and connecting with old friends. Not only will this give you plenty of opportunity for fun an excitement, it will also put you in the right places to meet someone new when you are ready to do so.

With your new exciting life underway, your confidence up, and your new take-charge attitude, you will attract to admirers everywhere you go. But here is the good thing: if you have taken your time in thinking about your past relationships and what you truly want and deserve, you can now be as picky as you want when choosing a new partner. You will now never settle for someone who makes you a second option for what to do that night.

You will not settle for a person who does not make you feel special, because now you know that you are incredibly special. No one can take that away from you and unless someone will add to that amazing confidence, you will have no time for that person in your new life.

Flirt with that cute stranger in the bar. Go on a date with that stud running on the treadmill at the gym. Smile at that cutie in aisle five in the grocery store. You are a hot commodity! Once you realize this, so will all of them. There could also always be the chance that you may re-connect with the person from your past.

But here is the key: never give your heart or any part of yourself away again unless you know that they are worth it. This means that it is okay to meet and date new people (or even old people), but do not take it too quickly. Take your time when getting to know prospects. However, if you do start to like someone and it doesn’t work out, do not get upset over it. This is your journey. If something does not work out, it means that there is something better waiting for you to find it. There will always be a new person to meet or a new experience to have; you just have to be open to it. You just have to remember, that at the end of the day, you will still always have you, so you better love yourself most of all!

Love,

Elena

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